In today’s society, we’re often so worried about everyone else that we end up treating others better than we do ourselves. Whether you’re married, single, or in a relationship, make sure to show yourself some love, too. Self-love is very important because it shapes our mental, emotional, and even physical state on a daily basis. When you don’t love yourself, you’re less confident and less positive, which affects how you move throughout your day and interact with others. Boosting your self-love improves your overall health; when you feel good about yourself, you want to take care of yourself. Here are some great ways to start loving yourself:
Mental Self Love
- Lighten up on your perception of yourself.
Instead of concentrating on all of the negatives, weaknesses or things you can’t do, put more emphasis on your positives, strengths and the things that you are good at.
- Give yourself realistic goals.
Don’t pack too many “to-do’s” into one day. Be realistic about what you can accomplish in a certain amount of time. If your goals are more attainable that means you can accomplish them, which means less stress and more happiness!
- Schedule time for yourself.
Make time for a hobby or leisure activity you love to do. This will take your mind off of the day-to-day responsibilities, and allow you to actually enjoy what you are doing without undue pressure.
Emotional Self Love
- Be present.
Use meditation to help calm those active thoughts and get in tune with yourself. Focus on sitting, breathing, and being present. This regular routine will evoke emotional-centeredness in your daily life.
- Change how you feel about your mistakes.
None of us have the answer all of the time. Life is all about trial and error, so when you make a mistake, look at it as a learning experience. Remember, you wouldn’t have learned had “this” not happened.
- Only surround yourself with people who make you feel good.
If you feel uneasy with someone, recognize that and give yourself a healthier environment for your emotions. Your time is precious, so spend more time with the people who deserve it.
Physical Self Love
- Treat yourself to a spa day.
Do something for your physical self that feels like a treat. Whether it’s a manicure, facial, massage or a soak in a hot bath, pamper yourself.
- Get outside and get moving.
Get those endorphins going by staying active. Take your favorite workout class, go for a walk or hike outside and soak up nature!
- Make sleep a priority.
Put more emphasis on healthy sleep patterns. Remember, this is the only time your body has to rejuvenate! We put so much “wear & tear” on our bodies, let’s give them the time they need to recuperate.
It is very important for us to take care of our brains. There is always so much emphasis on taking care of our physical body, but not much on taking care of our mental self. But, the brain is literally the epicenter — I mean, really, what would we do without it? So, take some time to clean your mind. Here are 5 ways to detoxify your brain this season:
1. Be active daily
Being active is not a chore — it’s an activity that helps clear your mind of daily stress. Whether you go for a walk or run, or take an intense workout class, being active transfers your mental energy to physical energy. The result? Your mind gets those wonderful endorphins going, making room for positive thoughts.
2. Review & put bills on autopay
Bills, bills, bills! They can be so time (and money) consuming. From music and TV streaming subscriptions, to apps that you no longer use, it’s a good idea to go through your bank and credit card statements quarterly to make sure you are only paying for things you use regularly. Once you decide which services are worth keeping, put them on autopay so that they’re automatically deducted from your account when due. This will clear up more time in your mind, and schedule.
3. Start buying in bulk
There are certain things that we will always need. Soap, toilet paper, hair products, for example, never expire and make more sense to buy in bulk. Instead of having to make lists and extra trips to the store, start buying in bulk. This will keep you prepared and it will eliminate yet another chore, freeing up time and headspace for other important tasks and people.
4. Stop, drop, relax
More often than not we go from work to work! Whether it’s finishing up work-related tasks, grocery shopping, cleaning, or doing chores, it’s often hard for us to stop & drop stressful tasks, and just relax. The best way to implement the transition is to make relaxation a habit. Pick a realistic time to shut everything off and wind down. Grab a glass of wine, cook dinner, listen to music, play with your children, talk to your husband or best friend… do something you enjoy to get your mind off of daily stressors. Your mind and brain will thank you.
5. Take an aromatherapy bath
So simple, yet so neglected! These days, most of us don’t take baths anymore. Remember when Nana would “draw you a bath”? The majority of us think of baths as being too much trouble, too time consuming, or something we do to be romantic. On the contrary, baths are relaxing, soothing and purifying for your entire body. Try adding essential oils or bath salts that help destress and refresh the brain, such as eucalyptus or lavender.
We’ve all experienced a break-up, whether with a person, place, or thing. Separating yourself can sometimes leave a void. That “void” is space for new people, places, and things! Are there certain activities that you always think about trying but never actually take the time to do? Carpe diem, it’s time for new experiences! Here are some family-friendly ideas that are simple, easy on the pocket, and fun. Savor the alone time or make it social by inviting a friend or family member to join in.
Carpe Diem...it’s time for new experiences!
1. Visit a museum or gallery.
Whether it’s a local museum with a new exhibition, or one you’ve never been to before, expand your horizons with art. Build time into your afternoon lunch break, or your weekend travel plans.
2. Challenge your mind.
Do something that makes you think. Sign up for an online course, or start working on a difficult puzzle in your spare time at home. Feeling social? Join a team trivia night with friends or try an escape room – they are popping up everywhere!
3. Experience a new type of cuisine.
Get out of your comfort food zone, and try some new flavors. There are many exotic foods from different cultures to choose from — do some research, pick one, and take the family or invite friends.
4. Get lost in a book.
Yes, they still exist! Find a good book and make an afternoon or night of it. Grab a cup of tea (or a glass of wine), snuggle up in your favorite blanket and get lost in a good story. Not sure which book to try? Sign up for a subscription service, such as Book of the Month.
5. Start a gratitude journal.
Find a beautiful journal, put it on your nightstand and write what you are grateful for either daily or weekly. This will improve your mood and outlook on life, as well as your interactions with others on a daily basis.
6. Learn a new workout.
From aerial yoga to kickboxing, there are tons of new workouts popping up that are both fun and intense. Get your sweat on and burn some calories — all while learning something new!
7. Take a self-love day
Everyone needs a little me time. Set aside a day to take care of yourself. Whatever you have been putting on the back burner, whether it’s a manicure or taking a long hike outdoors, take this day to indulge in something that makes you feel good.